This is a post that is very personal and profoundly sad for me, but I wanted to share this because to help those who are in the process of being with a parent who is dying, and I wanted to honor my father. You see, about 2 weeks ago my dad, Tom Griffiths, passed away. He was diagnosed with cancer about 8 months ago, and endured very aggressive radiation and chemotherapy treatments. After his condition worsened, he decided to reach out to Hospice and let go.
During his painful journey, I would spend as much time as possible with him. I would apply essential oils on his feet and legs, give him Reiki, help him get in more comfortable positions with pillows, blankets and other yoga props, and mostly spent quiet time with him. When we did speak, we would tell each other how much we loved each other and how grateful we were to each other, and try to slip in a few jokes here and there.
The essential oils that I used with him the most were Frankincense, Valor, Peace & Calming, Lavender,Pan Away, Peppermint and Deep Relief. I would apply them to where he was feeling pain and of course on the bottoms of his feet and on his pillow case so he could easily smell them while he rested in bed. I can honestly say that every time I put the oils on him, he either told me or showed me that he got a little and sometimes a lot of relief from the pain he was feeling. He would become less fidgety, and become calmer and more relaxed.
As he was closer to the final stages of his death he spoke very little, I mostly asked him question here and there to see what he needed to be more comfortable. One day I asked him if he was worried or afraid of dying, and he said, “no”. I asked him where he would go when he slipped into a deep ‘sleep’, and he’d say always, ” I went to the sea shore.” The very last thing he said to me was, “I am ready, I can do this.”
Right before my dad passed, the home care nurse and I gave him a sponge bath with water infused with Peace & Calming and I anointed his whole body with Frankincense. I think I was able to be so close to what was happening because I had these oils.
Fortunately, my whole family was with him when he died and moments before he took that last breath, he opened his eyes and looked at each one of us in the eyes, indicating that he knew we were there and that he loved us.
I also that my dad would want me to share this with you all. He loved these essential oils and he loved that they help so many people around the world.
If you are experiencing the terminal illness or death of a parent, my hope is that you line up your resources of your friends and other family members, take advantage of support groups available through your community, do restorative yoga, take time for yourself, and of course use essential oils to help bring you and your loved ones more peace and calming as you go through this rite of passage.